Every Mom is a Super Mom
I have been writing this post for a month. Every time I come back to it, it somehow feels incomplete. After taking a moment to reflect on the events that happened 12 years ago, I’ve decided today is the day to share. As I pray for peace, I also pray that we stop tearing each other down, and can lift each other up.
I am tired of seeing articles written about Pinterest and “Super Moms” that bash and judge. So what if someone wants to make homemade sprinkles with no artificial colors for their kids. Maybe they’re allergic. Maybe they enjoy baking. The author claims to be “too busy” yet are whining about other people’s lives. How about focusing on yourself!!
I just read another article written by a woman about “bitchy” Moms who do it all – with the response: fuck them!! What the does this even mean?? Because someone chose to write a note in their kids’ lunch, you call them a bitch…really? Where then does one draw the line between being a Mom and a bitch? And why again and we calling each other names?
Everyone is given 24 hours in a day. What you chose to do with it is your business. I love making fun lunches for my kids to get them excited about different veggies but that doesn’t mean I do that crap in the middle of the night. I’m relaxing with James watching re-watching 30 Rock for the hundredth time.
I am amazed at my friends who are starting their own businesses or climbing the corporate ladder. I am in awe of the things they can do (or remember to do!!) after having kids. Some have killer gardens or bake perfect macarons. Because I can’t do these things, should I feel guilty and start name calling?
Most of my days are spent with play-doh in my hair or rinsing chicken poop from the backyard steps. It’s not glamorous, but it’s fun for me and I love being creative with my kids. That is my choice; what I choose to do with my 24 hours. I don’t train for marathons or wear makeup. I look like a hot mess some days because I don’t have a cleaner or landscaper or babysitter for my kids. And that’s what I do with my time. It’s not better than yours or worse. It’s what I do for my family.
I really wish that women would stop hating on Pinterest as if their husbands demand a clean and organized house like tons of the pins there. If you don’t want to use it, don’t use it! It’s not designed to put any pressure on you. It’s designed to share and exchange ideas. Women – we need to come together and celebrate all the wonderful and crazy things in life together. Like how every dirty sock somehow needs my help to make it to the hamper. Let’s sit back, share a bottle of wine and enjoy life rather than bring each other down. We’re ALL supermoms with different talents and gifts. I hope we can share information and ideas to make life easier and more fun. We are all good enough and deserve better than name calling. I’m hoping we can come together to see that we really have much more in common than we think.